Drew Gerald – Holistic Sex

“I was lying there in bed, things were flowing and we were both feeling incredible. I had the thought come up again, of doing something pretty kinky… I really wanted to try it but what would my partner think? The look of disgust and disapproval of my last lover flashed through my mind. I felt the shame and rejection wash through my body just thinking about it… so I decided not to bring it up. Now I regret not sharing my true desires.”

“I really want to follow the correct spiritual path, but I just love sex. I’m conflicted because I just want to do the right thing.. but I’m not sure what that is.”

“I don’t feel like I’m manly enough. I’m constantly worried that I’m not masculine enough in bed, but I don’t like being a macho jerk. Honestly, I’m not even really sure what it means to “be in my masculine” anyway.”

“No matter how many books I read and techniques I try, I still don’t feel any more confident or satisfied in bed. It’s like the harder I try to be a good lover, the more frustrated I get!”

“We were having sex on the fifth date and I don’t know what came over me. I felt this urge to talk dirty, to let loose. I wanted him to call me explicit names, I wanted him to take control and dominate me. I wanted to scream like an animal. These feelings were intense; it was as if every inch of my body was on fire, aching to be ravished. But I was afraid. I didn’t want him to think I was a slut, I wanted him to respect me. He wasn’t saying anything either, and we both ended up just getting awkward and uncomfortable.”

“My relationships are actually pretty good, but I want to take things to the next level. I don’t want good-enough, I want mastery.”

“I spent an hour fingering, licking, kissing, thrusting… but it was no use. All I wanted to do was make her happy… to satisfy her and see her explode in pleasure. But I couldn’t. She couldn’t. I feel like I let her down; like a failure. I know she has orgasmed with past boyfriends, but not with me. I’ve tried all sorts of techniques. I feel inadequate and she feels like there’s something wrong with her.”

“I was always told masturbation was a sin. Church, school, you name it. My parents told me it was wrong to touch myself in any way, and that sex should wait ’till after marriage. But I do. It feels both wrong and pleasurable at the same time. I don’t think I’m a bad person, but it sure feels like it.”

“I seem to keep attracting the same kind of disappointing relationships. Nobody treats me right and I can’t find anyone that makes me happy, even though I give so much!”