John Cooper – Seduction without Pick up

John Cooper – Seduction without Pick up

Hey everyone glad to be here to do my first AMA.

I have a different story to most “PUA’s”. I didn’t go from zero to hero by learning “game”. I was already successful with women once I hit my late teens, way before I got into the community, and it was only because my relationship ended, did I find my way into it. What I didn’t realise at the time; is the need to control women and “acquire” sex actually came from the hole in the heart created by the ending of my relationship. It was only when I left the community, healed myself and went back to my original behaviour, did I find success with women again. I feel I am one of the few coaches who has this multi-dimensional perspective. Most coaches say they were bad with women, learnt some “game” and are now “gurus.” To me this is the blind leading the blind, because all their teachings are the effects of the pick up paradigm they fell into.

• Here’s something that took me a while to figure out. What’s the difference between Pick up and being good with women? We are tricked into thinking it’s the same thing. But it’s not. It’s actually diameterically opposed. A woman isn’t a ‘Target’, nor is a group of girls a ‘Set’. Just because we interact with a woman, does NOT mean it’s an ‘Approach’, If we swap numbers, it’s not a ‘Number close’. This is just the language of “The Game”. We’ve been playing this ‘game’ for so long that we’ve forgotten it’s not real life, it’s just our militaristic description of reality.

• In Pick up the core motivation is the acquisition of women – it’s hard-coded into the DNA of pickup. Whether you choose a mechanical methodology using routines & scripts or follow natural game principles, you are still operating from this core motivation of ‘taking’. The problem with this, is that if you go out with the sole intention to TAKE, and you are unsuccessful in taking, you face all the pickup symptoms such as Rejection, Blow outs, Approach Anxiety and so on. Solutions are formed to destroy anxiety, suppress it, desensitise to it, meditate through it. Yet these are only ways to negate something that is unnecessarily created in the first place. Created through a flawed system grounded in taking.

• The only way to have social & sexual freedom, is to transcend the fear-based pick up system completely. Once we reach a true place of wholeness, our view of women moves from “target” / “set”, to “goddess / sister / allie / friend”, our energy moves from parasitic actions of taking, to symbiotic actions of giving / creating / sharing. We move from control to surrender, from working for a woman to playing with women, from fear to love.

• I understand what I have to say may ruffle a few feathers in the industry, but I can only speak my truth. I’m here to guide men out the adolescent wastelands of pick up, to the powerful seductions and soul connections our heart desires.

• Seduction without Pick up.